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Papa Always Said... - opihikao - 02-24-2015
As we all move forward, in trying times for some of us, reading the various threads here has brought a sense of "discomfort", for lack of a better word.
We have the challenge of an active lava flow, various communities at odds with neighbors due to roads and other "association" issues, we have been through storms, we have had great loss in some of our ohana, and we have opined on many issues given our personal experiences in life.
Today, in reflection of our teachings (as personal guidance is needed), I wanted to share with all of you what my Papa always said. I carry a written note from him in my wallet from 1963, which reads:
E ke Akua, e ha'awi mai ka maluhia
I loa'a mai na mea I hiki 'ole ai,
Aka wiwo'ole I ho'ohuli na mea I hiki aku ai
A ke Akamai no ka 'ike o na mea oko'a.
Amene.
Which translates into:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
Amen.
Just sharing thoughts, as mo'opuna eat dinner, with not a care in the world, knowing we will take care of them. And many others in the process. That is our charge for our future.
No matter our differences, there is balance in everything should you choose to find it. The onus is upon all of us to be part of a better tomorrow. Imua kakou, and "lest we forget" (from "Recessional") the true meaning of "aloha" in the process.
Aloha kekahi I kehaki (love one another).
Have a good evening all. Life is short. Enjoy!
JMO.
RE: Papa Always Said... - Kenney - 02-26-2015
Mahalo for the reminder Opihikao. "No matter what our differences"..."Aloha kekahi I kehaki"
RE: Papa Always Said... - SBH - 02-26-2015
Opihikao no ka oi
RE: Papa Always Said... - Kenney - 02-26-2015
Yes! The voice of Aloha!
RE: Papa Always Said... - opihikao - 02-26-2015
Aloha mai, Kenny and SBH, and mahalo for kind words and thoughts. Was having a "moment" of reflection, and thought to share it.
Would either of you, or anyone here, like to share what kupuna taught you (ie. Papa, Tutu, Aunty, Uncle, mentor, etc.)? I'd enjoy hearing different words of wisdom from others, and their respective culture. Surely there will be similar sayings kupuna gave us no matter our culture/beliefs, but reminders are always good.
Maybe we can make a change with the sharing of basics we learned. Perhaps this thread will be good for sharing those precious "pearls of wisdom".
Anyone? What did your Papa or Tutu, Daddy or Mommy, or Mentor say that stuck in your po'o (head)?
Mahalo, again, and in advance, for any contributions to "wisdom".
JMO.
RE: Papa Always Said... - Guest - 02-26-2015
Wow, great subject or topic. My father rest in peace would always tell me things like you must stand for something or you may fall for anything. He would tell me that alcohol was the reason for 90 % of his bad luck,haha. He would say 90% percent of going somewhere or getting something done was to simply show up on time ready. He would say the harder you work the luckier you get. To run with the big dogs you must learn to work hard and play hard or you minus well stay on the front porch.
Once when I had no job and was laying around a bit, he would walk from window to window in the house and say, "nope no job out there today " guess I should just resume my position" this was usually just before I was to get a boot in my ass. Oh their are way to many more but thanks for the memories, I can hear his voice now and those may be his boots i am hearing coming up the stairs, got to run.
RE: Papa Always Said... - DTisme - 02-26-2015
Interesting to see the Serenity Prayer in Hawaiian, Opihikao. It got me to thinking about its history. Wikipedia has an interesting article about it at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer
RE: Papa Always Said... - TomK - 02-26-2015
Opihikao,
I think this is a great thread. I wish I could contribute properly but I didn't have the same sort of upbringing you may have had, and add in the cultural differences I'm not sure I can really come up with a comment you might like.
My father was my role model. One thing he told me is to stand up to bullies. If you hit a bully they won't bully you again. Unfortunately, in this day and age, it'll likely land you in jail or at least facing a lawsuit. So I can't recommend that advice even though it worked well for me!
My father bullied the Nazis by the way, back in the 1940s.
The other piece of advice he gave me was to make sure I went to a university after school. I wasn't so keen on doing that for some time as I was always a blue-collar kind of person and still am, but he told me that you go to a university to learn how to think, not to get a degree.
That was the best advice I've ever had.
RE: Papa Always Said... - Kenney - 02-28-2015
I love this thread Opihikao! I also find much of what I read here "disturbing", but your posts are always so uplifting!
Remembering your Papa reminded me of what I loved the most about my Father. In 3 words, he loved people. My Mother often said of him and me, "you two never met a stranger". If we look, we see that we have much in common with all people, and there is something to relate to, and love in everyone.
One event that comes to mind is when my Son, Father and I were walking in Honolulu after my son had broken his jaw when "oogleing" a girl while riding his bike to work at Aloha Marketplace. He literally "ate" the back window of a station wagon because he wasn't looking where he was going.
My Dad stopped on the sidewalk and chatted with a couple who were obviously tourists attempting to blend in by wearing their matching Hilo Hattie's shirts. Daddy greeted them as friends, and we continued on our way, leaving us all smiling. I asked my Father "why did you stop and talk to them?" His answer, "because they looked so out of place. I wanted to acknowledge them". What a guy!!!
That is probably the greatest gift my Father gave me and the world, His love for people.
It's really easy to just smile at people. A smile can go straight to the heart, and heal. It has for me.
Aloha Kekahi I Kehaki.
RE: Papa Always Said... - james weatherford - 02-28-2015
Lessons from my maternal grandmother when I was a small child.
The soaring hawk and the swarm of starlings harassing it out of their sky.
Eyes see the movement of a hammer swung in the distance before the sound of the strike comes to the ears.