09-28-2012, 10:41 AM
In our neighborhood, an 'older' area (built up pretty much in the early '50's - mostly parents moved here from sugar camps or from the old Waiakea neighborhood that was wiped out in the tsunami - even a couple of houses were moved here from there - we are one of the few all haole couples.... most are Japanese or Filipino, or mixed....
The FNG attitude is mainly from a very few folks, of various backgrounds, but the more vocal are the ones that have been here a little longer, but probably not from 'way back' times... there are various reasons for their attitudes, but being a good neighbor helps.... for most of our neighbors, it was like any move I have had in semi-rural midwest... takes awhile before the neighbors scope you out & bother you (to say hi), but once they know that you are here, and a decent sort, then you are here.... sharing stuff from your land or your labors definitely helps break the ice, just like the ol' barn raising did in the midwest....but do not expect the "be our guest, how great it is you are here" type greeting.... not sure why some folks expect that... but this is NOT Disney World!
The FNG attitude is mainly from a very few folks, of various backgrounds, but the more vocal are the ones that have been here a little longer, but probably not from 'way back' times... there are various reasons for their attitudes, but being a good neighbor helps.... for most of our neighbors, it was like any move I have had in semi-rural midwest... takes awhile before the neighbors scope you out & bother you (to say hi), but once they know that you are here, and a decent sort, then you are here.... sharing stuff from your land or your labors definitely helps break the ice, just like the ol' barn raising did in the midwest....but do not expect the "be our guest, how great it is you are here" type greeting.... not sure why some folks expect that... but this is NOT Disney World!