04-14-2014, 02:21 PM
opihikao, I'm sorry but your perception of a personal vendetta is incorrect.
I always write long posts; it's a fault of mine. I spent a long time in a Ph.D. program, and I'm used to writing out all my points. I could write a very long post on going to the store or whatever. The length means nothing in terms of forcefulness or investment. I was only trying to be factual, thorough, analytical, and not misstate my experiences.
I started out with Tiffany with absolute admiration and predisposed to believe the best. After two years, I became aware that certain traits were not something she intends to change. These traits are ones I do not feel make a good elected representative. If she were self aware enough to realize she might want to work on these things, I would feel more positive, but she chooses to only listen to the cheering squad.
As I said, I think if she does get elected, it will not end well for her, and I really do not wish her anything bad. I hope she learns. I don't want her dreams to be crushed.
These are the so-called "personal" experiences I had with her.
When she became interested in doing a story on something sensitive relating to me, she showed no sensitivity or ever asked if her actions might make things worse. It's become a mindset she has that a journalist doesn't need to consider whether actions might have repercussions.
She charged into a situation and made demands of other people that I could have told her were going to backfire, but she just did it. She called a volatile person up and made demands and then said she felt threatened.
When the result was that she came under fire (from others), she went into yoyo mode that swung from immediate charging into a lawsuit to hiding from the reality. She asked me to do things and I did them. She told me to file complaints I wouldn't have filed, and I did it. I like to help, and I tried.
At one point I asked one time for a copy of something, after many many times doing similar for her, she said, no, she didn't have even one minute of her time. It required no effort on her part, and it was public information, just a big hassle for me to get it. I learned then that she considered her time and energy of premium value, but mine not at all. When I find that friends operate that way, I usually just write off being involved with them, as I believe in respecting each person's time and energy as having value.
So from that point I was just an observer, but I was still pro-Tiffany and far from really upset with her. We are at different times of life, and she doesn't really know me, so it's fine.
However, as I read the blog and watched a patade of dramas unfold that were unrelated to me, I began to see a lot of inconsistency, judgmental behavior, wild swings in her ethical stance when it came to what she published, etc.. I saw she was often threatening to sue for minor issues. Lots of drama.
I'm an observer. I have certain standards. You certainly have standards. You are not happy with Hanohano. Well I feel Tiffany is also not professional and has a lot of immaturity in how she reacts and how she charges into things. That is why I thought my comments were worth making, because all of it related to how she might be in office. It was not personal.
What I get from my experiences that I mentioned, is that I have concerns about the way she jumps into a heated situation without thinking through all the ramifications. I think it is very important for a councilperson to consider actions before taking them. Puna has already had one very headstrong rep, from what I can tell. I think Tiffany needs to reflect before she acts, before I would vote for her (if I were in the district).
I would not have written anything if she had not run.
This is not character assassination, rather character assessment. None of it is BS or trying to twist stuff around. None of it is coming from one time she acted like this. If you have never encountered the same, then I can see why you think it is hard to believe, but other people have run into the same issues I did, and that's a pattern.
I always write long posts; it's a fault of mine. I spent a long time in a Ph.D. program, and I'm used to writing out all my points. I could write a very long post on going to the store or whatever. The length means nothing in terms of forcefulness or investment. I was only trying to be factual, thorough, analytical, and not misstate my experiences.
I started out with Tiffany with absolute admiration and predisposed to believe the best. After two years, I became aware that certain traits were not something she intends to change. These traits are ones I do not feel make a good elected representative. If she were self aware enough to realize she might want to work on these things, I would feel more positive, but she chooses to only listen to the cheering squad.
As I said, I think if she does get elected, it will not end well for her, and I really do not wish her anything bad. I hope she learns. I don't want her dreams to be crushed.
These are the so-called "personal" experiences I had with her.
When she became interested in doing a story on something sensitive relating to me, she showed no sensitivity or ever asked if her actions might make things worse. It's become a mindset she has that a journalist doesn't need to consider whether actions might have repercussions.
She charged into a situation and made demands of other people that I could have told her were going to backfire, but she just did it. She called a volatile person up and made demands and then said she felt threatened.
When the result was that she came under fire (from others), she went into yoyo mode that swung from immediate charging into a lawsuit to hiding from the reality. She asked me to do things and I did them. She told me to file complaints I wouldn't have filed, and I did it. I like to help, and I tried.
At one point I asked one time for a copy of something, after many many times doing similar for her, she said, no, she didn't have even one minute of her time. It required no effort on her part, and it was public information, just a big hassle for me to get it. I learned then that she considered her time and energy of premium value, but mine not at all. When I find that friends operate that way, I usually just write off being involved with them, as I believe in respecting each person's time and energy as having value.
So from that point I was just an observer, but I was still pro-Tiffany and far from really upset with her. We are at different times of life, and she doesn't really know me, so it's fine.
However, as I read the blog and watched a patade of dramas unfold that were unrelated to me, I began to see a lot of inconsistency, judgmental behavior, wild swings in her ethical stance when it came to what she published, etc.. I saw she was often threatening to sue for minor issues. Lots of drama.
I'm an observer. I have certain standards. You certainly have standards. You are not happy with Hanohano. Well I feel Tiffany is also not professional and has a lot of immaturity in how she reacts and how she charges into things. That is why I thought my comments were worth making, because all of it related to how she might be in office. It was not personal.
What I get from my experiences that I mentioned, is that I have concerns about the way she jumps into a heated situation without thinking through all the ramifications. I think it is very important for a councilperson to consider actions before taking them. Puna has already had one very headstrong rep, from what I can tell. I think Tiffany needs to reflect before she acts, before I would vote for her (if I were in the district).
I would not have written anything if she had not run.
This is not character assassination, rather character assessment. None of it is BS or trying to twist stuff around. None of it is coming from one time she acted like this. If you have never encountered the same, then I can see why you think it is hard to believe, but other people have run into the same issues I did, and that's a pattern.