11-20-2005, 04:38 AM
Hi,
I've been reading this board for a few months now, but was too shy to introduce myself. My husband and I are in our early 40's with a 14 yr old girl and 12 yr old boy. We are Asian. We've visited BI a few times but spent our time in Volcano Village rentals. We recently bought a lot in HPP and hope to build there after retirement. The kids love Hawaii and want to move right away, but the schooling issue tells me to wait until they go to college. I have a small family of 1 brother, 1 sister and my parents. I see my parents every few weeks, but my siblings...we don't see each other sometimes for months (in the same large town & everyone is busy). My husband has a large family, but they are not close.
I've read about people moving to BI and then moved back to mainland due to family issue. My first concern is being so far from my parents. Also, when the kids finish college, they will more than likely settle in the mainland. I am already thinking of when my daughter needs me when she has a family (birth & baby)...and then I won't be there much to help. My mother kept our children until they were 3 or 4 years old and that gave me peace of mind when I went to work. My husband is a software engineer. I am an accountant and was working for a large oil & gas firm.The overtime, stress & requirement to be there interfered and gave me guilt when I left the children to go to work, especially when they were ill. Having my mother made a whole world of difference; and I want to be there for my children in the future...if they need me, just like my mom helped me. That is my doubt about moving to BI.
However, we still have our piece of land there waiting for us when we are ready. I am hoping we can move in 10 or 15 years, and being able to find a job in Hilo or nearby. We can't afford to retire at 50, especially with the high cost of living, paying loan to build the house, etc.
I've learned so much reading the posts daily. Hanalei in Houston
I've been reading this board for a few months now, but was too shy to introduce myself. My husband and I are in our early 40's with a 14 yr old girl and 12 yr old boy. We are Asian. We've visited BI a few times but spent our time in Volcano Village rentals. We recently bought a lot in HPP and hope to build there after retirement. The kids love Hawaii and want to move right away, but the schooling issue tells me to wait until they go to college. I have a small family of 1 brother, 1 sister and my parents. I see my parents every few weeks, but my siblings...we don't see each other sometimes for months (in the same large town & everyone is busy). My husband has a large family, but they are not close.
I've read about people moving to BI and then moved back to mainland due to family issue. My first concern is being so far from my parents. Also, when the kids finish college, they will more than likely settle in the mainland. I am already thinking of when my daughter needs me when she has a family (birth & baby)...and then I won't be there much to help. My mother kept our children until they were 3 or 4 years old and that gave me peace of mind when I went to work. My husband is a software engineer. I am an accountant and was working for a large oil & gas firm.The overtime, stress & requirement to be there interfered and gave me guilt when I left the children to go to work, especially when they were ill. Having my mother made a whole world of difference; and I want to be there for my children in the future...if they need me, just like my mom helped me. That is my doubt about moving to BI.
However, we still have our piece of land there waiting for us when we are ready. I am hoping we can move in 10 or 15 years, and being able to find a job in Hilo or nearby. We can't afford to retire at 50, especially with the high cost of living, paying loan to build the house, etc.
I've learned so much reading the posts daily. Hanalei in Houston