11-06-2007, 06:24 AM
Rob, this distinction might not matter, but as a reader, what haoleboy did wasn't so much a hijacking to make it all about him, but a way of saying "I have no respect for this topic therefore I'll talk about anything I want, in a way I think is funny or lighthearted." But which is simply disrespectful of the OP.
Kind of like responding "la la la I don't hear you"
Hijacking is a real attempt to take the discussion down another road.
As a third type of straying from the OP's subject --off-topic remarks and side-trips that are natural products of free association in conversation can produce interesting stories and I enjoy them on Punaweb and the net in general, but if you dislike that, it's your board.
Punaweb is, in general, a most civil board, and I like that about it. I've belonged to enough communities that began tearing themselves apart because people had to be snide, sarcastic,or demeaning toward others.
I don't agree with the "grow the thick skin" approach.
Yes, grow tolerance for disagreement with your ideas and beliefs.
The line can be drawn very clearly.
a) I don't agree with you, and here's why. Civil.
b) You're stupid and uninformed to think that. Not civil.
It's the line between disagreeing with another member on a certain subject and making a personal attack. An attack doesn't have to use nasty words to make a person feel put down, unwelcome, or that they want to leave the community.
Kind of like responding "la la la I don't hear you"
Hijacking is a real attempt to take the discussion down another road.
As a third type of straying from the OP's subject --off-topic remarks and side-trips that are natural products of free association in conversation can produce interesting stories and I enjoy them on Punaweb and the net in general, but if you dislike that, it's your board.
Punaweb is, in general, a most civil board, and I like that about it. I've belonged to enough communities that began tearing themselves apart because people had to be snide, sarcastic,or demeaning toward others.
I don't agree with the "grow the thick skin" approach.
Yes, grow tolerance for disagreement with your ideas and beliefs.
The line can be drawn very clearly.
a) I don't agree with you, and here's why. Civil.
b) You're stupid and uninformed to think that. Not civil.
It's the line between disagreeing with another member on a certain subject and making a personal attack. An attack doesn't have to use nasty words to make a person feel put down, unwelcome, or that they want to leave the community.