05-22-2009, 12:59 PM
This is what John Dirgo had to say on the other topic:
msmoto is not mad at her husband (see other topic). I believe what they both wanted was for the police to come and there was some question as to whether helping her up would be effective, whether she would be able to stand, and I think they were worried the neighbor might get physical.
I doubt the husband could put the camera down because possibly the neighbor would have grabbed something and broken the camera with it.
My take is they were waiting for the police and the husband was having a hard time deciding what to do. At one point he asks can she get up, and then he sees the neighbor getting aggressive and tells her to stay down -- my take was stay down and out of his reach.
Do I think they made the best call for producing good documentation of the incident? No, I think the video doesn't serve them well because it doesn't show the incident that put her on the ground and the rest COULD be judged as staged by an impartial audience.
Why? Because if she is really hurting super bad that ought to be more important than documentation, and if she is not hurting that bad then she should stop crying out because it looks like she's playing it up for the camera. It's one of those can't have your cake and eat it too situations, IMHO. But when people are shocked and upset they don't think straight.
Did the woman on the ground choose to stay on the ground waiting for the police and to have her husband videotape the neighbor in case he did something violent? Yes, I think it was her choice. She said so. So not going to divorce husband.
ALL she asks him to do is check whether the police are really on their way. My question was why he didn't get on the cell phone and do that ... she didn't want him to leave her so the inference is he had his cell on him.
quote:John Dirgo is a long time respected member of Punaweb.
To anyone who may not know them (and I do), these are two of the most loving caring people I know. The ONLY reason that Andy would leave his wife on the ground like that was to get documentation of the abuse. Andy is a VERY caring man, and made the calculated decision to leave his wife in pain for a short period of time in order to protect her in the long run. A tough decision for him, I'm sure (knowing him) but unfortunately, probably the right one.
msmoto is not mad at her husband (see other topic). I believe what they both wanted was for the police to come and there was some question as to whether helping her up would be effective, whether she would be able to stand, and I think they were worried the neighbor might get physical.
I doubt the husband could put the camera down because possibly the neighbor would have grabbed something and broken the camera with it.
My take is they were waiting for the police and the husband was having a hard time deciding what to do. At one point he asks can she get up, and then he sees the neighbor getting aggressive and tells her to stay down -- my take was stay down and out of his reach.
Do I think they made the best call for producing good documentation of the incident? No, I think the video doesn't serve them well because it doesn't show the incident that put her on the ground and the rest COULD be judged as staged by an impartial audience.
Why? Because if she is really hurting super bad that ought to be more important than documentation, and if she is not hurting that bad then she should stop crying out because it looks like she's playing it up for the camera. It's one of those can't have your cake and eat it too situations, IMHO. But when people are shocked and upset they don't think straight.
Did the woman on the ground choose to stay on the ground waiting for the police and to have her husband videotape the neighbor in case he did something violent? Yes, I think it was her choice. She said so. So not going to divorce husband.
ALL she asks him to do is check whether the police are really on their way. My question was why he didn't get on the cell phone and do that ... she didn't want him to leave her so the inference is he had his cell on him.