02-19-2014, 05:05 AM
Being conservative(not politics)& ethical in our beliefs and practices my wife and I were totally blindsided by what happened to our neighbors - the best of friends, as good as neighbors can be. We were sad when D got a wasting disease and passed on maybe 4 years ago, and the survivor so overwhelmed by the feeling and logistics of loss admitting not wanting to stick around. Within a year J had successfully drunk, smoked, and grieved into terminal cancer.
During the descent, a person showed up, functionally as a beer and cigarette go-fer, since we only offered food and non-detrimental essentials. As J neared the end requiring hospice services, this person began to spend nights as a caregiver. Eventually, the unofficial caregiver recommended full time sedation to hospice based on claimed experience as an ER nurse. So, when Js relatives arrived to say goodbye, they were unable to communicate and J passed away shortly without post mortem wishes being known. Even while J was still alive, we started noticing things disappearing, like a new Stihl weed eater, & within a week of J's passing various groups of people divided & hauled off most of the house contents, which were considerable and tasteful for Puna. Early on, my wife and I as best friends were asked to attend to D&J's estate, so we agreed to make sure assets were distributed to surviving family. But since the caregiver had attended J personally more than we could towards the end, we all assumed this person's take charge attitude had been requested by J.
My wife and I were totally unprepared for this kind of scam, and it wasn't until the house was gutted along with money J had mentioned was stashed and a possible will that we began to wonder if we had been duped, along with Js relatives who got nothing. So, in the end, the caregiver drove off in D&Js vehicle and that persons friends were squatting in the house to this day.
Edit: on a happier note, we spread D&Js ashes in the sea, together forever.
Aloha aina, aloha kai
During the descent, a person showed up, functionally as a beer and cigarette go-fer, since we only offered food and non-detrimental essentials. As J neared the end requiring hospice services, this person began to spend nights as a caregiver. Eventually, the unofficial caregiver recommended full time sedation to hospice based on claimed experience as an ER nurse. So, when Js relatives arrived to say goodbye, they were unable to communicate and J passed away shortly without post mortem wishes being known. Even while J was still alive, we started noticing things disappearing, like a new Stihl weed eater, & within a week of J's passing various groups of people divided & hauled off most of the house contents, which were considerable and tasteful for Puna. Early on, my wife and I as best friends were asked to attend to D&J's estate, so we agreed to make sure assets were distributed to surviving family. But since the caregiver had attended J personally more than we could towards the end, we all assumed this person's take charge attitude had been requested by J.
My wife and I were totally unprepared for this kind of scam, and it wasn't until the house was gutted along with money J had mentioned was stashed and a possible will that we began to wonder if we had been duped, along with Js relatives who got nothing. So, in the end, the caregiver drove off in D&Js vehicle and that persons friends were squatting in the house to this day.
Edit: on a happier note, we spread D&Js ashes in the sea, together forever.
Aloha aina, aloha kai
Aloha aina, aloha kai