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Originally posted by Greta
I heard of many, many, positive experiences. Mine was not. My son was one of two children on the team with no experience. The coaches were very competitive, as were their children who played on the team.
The children, particularly the two coaches children, would yell at kids who made mistakes during the game. Example: The other new little boy let a goal past and they went out on the field and screamed at him that he was stupid and they were never going to win with him on the team. Coaches ignored.
Kids were rude to the other teams at the end of the game changing things like "hate you." Coaches ignored.
Coaches tried to play the inexperienced kids as little as possible.
I struggled to be assertive for my son's sake, but also had to tread lightly as I know I was charactarized as being the pushy haole.
But again, I have heard only positive things from anyone else who has played Puna AYSO.
Oh my! I'm so sorry to hear that! My oldest boy played AYSO in Honolulu. So I can only speak of Honolulu. But it sounds like you got your child put on a team not run very well by adults. In Honolulu, it's more about the team play more than winning. These kids have plenty of time in life to fine tune their winning ways. At this time & age it's more important to teach these kids it's all about fun.
Greta, in your situation I would have gone to the Puna AYSO head honcho and request a team change. There are plenty of excuses to use. For instance request a team change to a team closer to home, or closer to your work. They are suppose to help accommodate parents and their needs if it means making situation easier, more enjoyable ,etc,etc...
Bottom line, you should have been able to change your boy's team if you feel things aren't going right. AYSO rules state I believe that all kids will get equal playing time no matter how good or bad their play is.
Greta, don't let this situation happen again to your children. It could have some real profoundly negative effects on your children down to road. You immediately request a team change. It's not healthy for you or your chid to sit there and witness or take abuse whether physical or mental. Children are our future! We don't need to sit idle and watch or future be destroyed!
Unfortunately your child was put on a terrible team, and that was the exception. But by far not the rule!
You know, I sensed this problem here in Puna, and that's part of the reason why my kid is in Akkido Karate instead of AYSO Puna soccer. Personally I don't need the extra dram in my life right now. If anybody is gonna ridicule my kid, it's gonna be my wife or myself. Not some asshat who knows nothing of my family!
"I would never die for my beliefs because I might be wrong."
Bertrand Russell
