I can think of some places to live where my "inside" would feel very very unhappy! Some people care more about the social part, or the natural part, or the job scene than others.
My dad, for example, cannot fathom why it matters to me to live in a place where the mindset of the people ticks the boxes for me. He could care less about people. All he cares about is the climate and avoiding his allergies. Meanwhile my mother would rather live where there is cultural history.
I like to be around buildings that are older and have character. I like a local pub or cafe that I can walk to. I like discussions about literature. I liked living in a town with a university where the university culture was really strong.
I don't like the LA culture on Maui. Kaua'i is too small. Lana'i is tiny but in one day I met writers and was welcomed. I could tell I would like it there. Oahu people are too rushed and the traffic sucks. I really love the Big Island, except for the vog. It's kind of nice to go somewhere and not hear coquis at night, would be different. [
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We all have our priorities.
I am spoiled by how nice people are here in the stores, for example, as opposed to Oakland, where service people were generally rude and disinterested. I notice when I go to Oahu how people are more like the mainland, and the aloha is more just training. It is so genuine here. I know there are small towns on the mainland where people are just as friendly, but I wouldn't belong in any of them.
I believe that the right place will call you and come into your life, and say, hey! come here! [
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