When you visit friends in Hawaii....

[StillHope]

Most of people here are very far from being rich and work hard just to get by.Having guests,even good ones,it's not easy.

So why not have a friendly but serious conversation (or letter) discussing all possible problems?

You can always mention "the other guests" and your bills after as an example.

It's inconvenient,I know.

But it's much better than saying nothing (before or in the process)

,being "full of aloha" and later post all your "ahola"

(as the opposite of aloha) on a public forum.

Do you want your guest to read this? Looks like it.

(Screen names or not,your guests can figure it out,especially when your screen name has your real name in it).

So have a courage and honesty to talk to your guest in person or have your friend do it for you.
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I can see some exceptions - your son's boss is going to visit.
So smile and send your son the bill later![]