11-26-2012, 04:13 PM
Melissa,
You can always just wait and pull out the trump card of "I'm the one in labor here and if I want/need to get up and walk around, or kneel, or squat, or whatever it takes to get that baby out, that's what I'm going to do!" once you are actually in labor. The delivery nurses are who you really deal with during most of the labor, and they are usually far less rigid than the Dr.s who pretty much monitor the labor from a distance, and then pop in and play hero when they catch the baby, after you have done all the hard work.
Are there birth classes here, either Lamaz or Bradley method? or any classes for couples who want as natural of a birth as medically feasible, so they know how to control the process themselves, as much as possible? It just seems from my perspective as a grandmother in my early 50s, who had two "easy" drug free deliveries with midwives, one at home and one in a birthing center, in two different states, that I had better options in 1982 than you ladies have here in 2012. How can it be that you young mothers are being left stranded trying to have their babies in a safe way with the minimum of medical interventions? Where is the support system that helps families build and deliver healthy babies? I'm sorry if I am ranting here, but we fought a lot of battles way back when to allow women to be more than passive participants in the birth of their babies, and now it seems like your generation is not reaping any of the benefits of those battles. Young families should not have to keep reinventing the wheel on something as basic as successfully making more new people in a medically safe and personally comfortable way.
Good luck and remember that it is your baby, and your birth, and you and the father really do have the right to control your experience as educated prepared parents who know what to expect.
Carol
You can always just wait and pull out the trump card of "I'm the one in labor here and if I want/need to get up and walk around, or kneel, or squat, or whatever it takes to get that baby out, that's what I'm going to do!" once you are actually in labor. The delivery nurses are who you really deal with during most of the labor, and they are usually far less rigid than the Dr.s who pretty much monitor the labor from a distance, and then pop in and play hero when they catch the baby, after you have done all the hard work.
Are there birth classes here, either Lamaz or Bradley method? or any classes for couples who want as natural of a birth as medically feasible, so they know how to control the process themselves, as much as possible? It just seems from my perspective as a grandmother in my early 50s, who had two "easy" drug free deliveries with midwives, one at home and one in a birthing center, in two different states, that I had better options in 1982 than you ladies have here in 2012. How can it be that you young mothers are being left stranded trying to have their babies in a safe way with the minimum of medical interventions? Where is the support system that helps families build and deliver healthy babies? I'm sorry if I am ranting here, but we fought a lot of battles way back when to allow women to be more than passive participants in the birth of their babies, and now it seems like your generation is not reaping any of the benefits of those battles. Young families should not have to keep reinventing the wheel on something as basic as successfully making more new people in a medically safe and personally comfortable way.
Good luck and remember that it is your baby, and your birth, and you and the father really do have the right to control your experience as educated prepared parents who know what to expect.
Carol
Carol
Every time you feel yourself getting pulled into other people's nonsense, repeat these words: Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Polish Proverb
Every time you feel yourself getting pulled into other people's nonsense, repeat these words: Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Polish Proverb