04-07-2013, 05:11 PM
I get it.
People ask me about moving here, and I mention the energy.
We all know the folks who came to the Big Island lock stock and barrel, and went back from whence they came in a very short time. I knew a couple who were on a plane back even before their container showed up!
Puna is alive in ways a lot of places are not. It hasn't been paved over. It is not covered in neon. There are much fewer distractions than "back home", and more land is being created and destroyed as I write this.
This can be unsettling beyond the stress of a major move. Some people turn tail and go home. Some anesthetize. Some surf the wave and thrive/grow/heal. Some stay but do not handle it well. All paths can have a profound effect on ones marriage/partnership.
I think it is valid to bring this into a discussion on Puna. How many times have I seen the "I'm coming to Puna, what should I expect" threads. Add this into the mix regardless of any questions about the original poster.
I also get that the idea of infidelity is challenging. It is for me as well. I took my emotions as a reminder to be very aware of me as a partner. Am I being the person I want for my spouse.
Aloha~
People ask me about moving here, and I mention the energy.
We all know the folks who came to the Big Island lock stock and barrel, and went back from whence they came in a very short time. I knew a couple who were on a plane back even before their container showed up!
Puna is alive in ways a lot of places are not. It hasn't been paved over. It is not covered in neon. There are much fewer distractions than "back home", and more land is being created and destroyed as I write this.
This can be unsettling beyond the stress of a major move. Some people turn tail and go home. Some anesthetize. Some surf the wave and thrive/grow/heal. Some stay but do not handle it well. All paths can have a profound effect on ones marriage/partnership.
I think it is valid to bring this into a discussion on Puna. How many times have I seen the "I'm coming to Puna, what should I expect" threads. Add this into the mix regardless of any questions about the original poster.
I also get that the idea of infidelity is challenging. It is for me as well. I took my emotions as a reminder to be very aware of me as a partner. Am I being the person I want for my spouse.
Aloha~