05-19-2014, 02:18 AM
Thanks for all the supportive responses. My son has never qualified for services outside of school because he has always, just barely, met the developmental milestones. Like, for instance, he'd be in the 3rd percentile for speech and my other two kids were in the 90th. At the same time, I'd have people on the street come up to me and say, "My daughter is autistic too". I had to take him out of school because his 1:1 was not making my son do his work. He was only focusing on the behavioral/social stuff- and my son was forgetting how to read- which I personally had spent years, and thousands of hours teaching him. So, it is a balancing act. But at this moment in time, at his age of 7, he must improve his reading, and since he is disabled- it requires me spending several hours per day on this- and the school was unwilling/unable to do this. So, when you see a child "misbehaving" in public, please look at the situation with less critical eye. You really can't begin to know what is "really going on". And if it takes my son 10X the repetition- to learn how to read- then it is also taking 10X the repetition, to learn basic social cues.