07-18-2007, 04:21 PM
Thanks all for your comments. I thought I would ask before we move back... We have been here for almost a year around 10 months.
My wife scored a job with Hilo Medical Center... So going back for 4 weeks isn't really an option. I quit my job I had for almost 10 years in Oregon, to come here but it's been kind of rough ... I always thought my wifes unhappiness was just some sort of phase... Complaints about it's too hot or she likes the 4 seasons and she can't stand the mosquitoes... She says Hawaii reminds her of Thailand her home town...She wanted to move from Thailand because she didn't like it there.
The options of separation have already been discussed but I don't really want to choose that path. I could personally be happy moving back to Oregon, but I feel she has not given Hawaii a chance. I tell her she should just try and work it out for 3 years. Since she tells me she likes her job.
I guess it kind of throws me into limbo for my dreams or since now I've semi switched to prepare to move back. But... I'm still trying to get her to change her mind... The last thing I can do is Kaiser offers personal Councilors they really don't offer couples counseling... But maybe that will help?
Thanks for all your responses. Maybe they might help, but I really think I'm fighting a uphill battle since trying to change someone well, as we all know... People will have to WANT to change before they can change themselves.
We don't have any well, She doesn't have any family back on the mainland. We do have friends of course...
My wife scored a job with Hilo Medical Center... So going back for 4 weeks isn't really an option. I quit my job I had for almost 10 years in Oregon, to come here but it's been kind of rough ... I always thought my wifes unhappiness was just some sort of phase... Complaints about it's too hot or she likes the 4 seasons and she can't stand the mosquitoes... She says Hawaii reminds her of Thailand her home town...She wanted to move from Thailand because she didn't like it there.
The options of separation have already been discussed but I don't really want to choose that path. I could personally be happy moving back to Oregon, but I feel she has not given Hawaii a chance. I tell her she should just try and work it out for 3 years. Since she tells me she likes her job.
I guess it kind of throws me into limbo for my dreams or since now I've semi switched to prepare to move back. But... I'm still trying to get her to change her mind... The last thing I can do is Kaiser offers personal Councilors they really don't offer couples counseling... But maybe that will help?
Thanks for all your responses. Maybe they might help, but I really think I'm fighting a uphill battle since trying to change someone well, as we all know... People will have to WANT to change before they can change themselves.
We don't have any well, She doesn't have any family back on the mainland. We do have friends of course...