05-25-2009, 04:08 PM
Dear Royall,
I've come out of the lurking mode to wish you well. I lost my husband to congestive heart failure, diabetes, and amputation when he was only 55 and I was 47. Your beloved Cathie was so very lucky to have you in her life, and I am sure that she was aware of your presence with her as you held her in your arms when she passed.
When my husband died I felt the words "this too shall pass" could not possibly begin to address the grief I felt over the loss of my precious husband. But I am now 52 and and have come to believe deeply that the love you have for Cathie, combined with the love she will always have for you, will give you the courage to live a "new normal" one day.
This in no way minimizes your grief, Royall. I have been where you are, and I feel so very deeply for you. I have deep respect for your feelings for your beloved Cathie.
It is five years later, I am remarried to a loving, sensitive man who treats me very tenderly and watches over me. I have moved to Hawaii from the mainland, and have met many great friends here. I still love, and will always love my spouse who passed away. He was a great man! Actually in his last months he always told me that he wanted me to be happy. Sometimes I feel that he had a part in how my new life has unfolded. I know that your wonderful wife Cathie has always, and will always, hold this same wish for you. She is a wife who always wants the best for her husband.
-- our family's thoughts go with you, Royall.
-Cyn
I've come out of the lurking mode to wish you well. I lost my husband to congestive heart failure, diabetes, and amputation when he was only 55 and I was 47. Your beloved Cathie was so very lucky to have you in her life, and I am sure that she was aware of your presence with her as you held her in your arms when she passed.
When my husband died I felt the words "this too shall pass" could not possibly begin to address the grief I felt over the loss of my precious husband. But I am now 52 and and have come to believe deeply that the love you have for Cathie, combined with the love she will always have for you, will give you the courage to live a "new normal" one day.
This in no way minimizes your grief, Royall. I have been where you are, and I feel so very deeply for you. I have deep respect for your feelings for your beloved Cathie.
It is five years later, I am remarried to a loving, sensitive man who treats me very tenderly and watches over me. I have moved to Hawaii from the mainland, and have met many great friends here. I still love, and will always love my spouse who passed away. He was a great man! Actually in his last months he always told me that he wanted me to be happy. Sometimes I feel that he had a part in how my new life has unfolded. I know that your wonderful wife Cathie has always, and will always, hold this same wish for you. She is a wife who always wants the best for her husband.
-- our family's thoughts go with you, Royall.
-Cyn