shortest amount of time on the BI?

[pahoated]

Another malahini story, all too common, probably more tragic than most. There is so much focus on what is wrong about Hawaii to have these things happen, when these people sound like they were messed up before making it over. She was kind of different, she hated Hawaii from the start.
http://www.civilbeat.com/2014/11/last-wo...-she-dies/
Last Words: A Homeless Woman Writes Home Just Before She Dies

"Mahalo nui Pele, 'ae noho ia moku 'aina" - kakahiaka oli

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Originally posted by pahoated

Any more, meeting a malahini amounts to the making it over story, listening to how much they prepared, if they planned at all, listening to what they are doing to stay, looking and listening to their character for awhile, evaluating how long they will make it, then I walk away. Seen and heard too many ecstasy-to-agony stories, watched several first hand, it gets kind of old and boring. Their descent is a buzzkill for me. A lot of people stay malahini even if they have lived here for 20 or 30 years. The new trend is younger people moving over to take care of their elderly parents that moved here 30 years ago. Sometimes they stay after the parent(s) die, a lot of times they go back.

For whatever reason, making the move makes a lot of couples split up, one way or the other. There are people that go back and forth to the mainland, convinced they are going to live in Hawaii but then miss mainland life and family, then miss Hawaii. They buy a home, decide to go back to the mainland, rent it out, decide to try moving back and occupy it for awhile, then go back to the mainland.

By its nature, Hawaii attracts the restless and unsettled and those people just tend to stay restless and unsettled no matter where they go. After being kamaaina long enough, it is understandable why locals that are born here don't have a whole lot of time or patience with malahini, they come and go too fast.

"Mahalo nui Pele, 'ae noho ia moku 'aina" - kakahiaka oli

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Thanks for the explanation. Makes a lot of sense. Always enjoy reading your perspective on things.

Best wishes

[wecelli]

My parents made it 2 1/2 years. My Mom missed all the department stores, my Dad said he was bored. Back to Portland, Oregon. Glad they are gone. Tired of listening to their misery. Hope they are enjoying the cold/rain/freezing rain and snow. It's paradise again!