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WE had just literally walked in the door. My child did not break any rules of the facility. The "complaint from the older members had to do with their 'concentration' being broken"- when we were there last week. My son is " a little off". He sometimes says inappropriate things. He can interrupt etc. I may have to tell him several times to do something. He takes medication for OCD, but he's diagnosed with "Asbergers". He has been in SPED in school, but I recently started homeschooling him. And the truly upsetting part about it, is that I could see he is "really trying to behave and be good" - while at the club. I am happy to keep him away from the "older complaining members" but that wasn't the discussion. It was just "carte blanche" - as soon as I walked in the door with him standing there beside me. Just a statement that "your son is no longer going to be able to participate"... I guess the reason I posted about it is to remind people that there are people all the time that are having problems and to just try and be tolerant. What appears on the surface of a situation, may not be what you assume to be going on at all...
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UK and other Punawebbers , please don't judge all of us sixty-somethings by the actions of a few intolerant, ignorant a-holes. My friends and I are the most open people I know and absolutely respect those who are differently-abled.
Having said that, it seems to me that if there were state employees on the premises in any role, then the state is involved and they are in violation of ADA statutes. I'd pursue that. You might find a lawyer who will represent you for free. That group should at least be made aware that what they're doing is illegal.
Good luck.
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Or, instead of using a lawyer to speak for you, you could handle it directly. If you prefer not to speak with the employee who asked you to leave (which would be understandable) you could find out who their supervisor or superior is, and speak with her/him. That could solve the problem quickly and get you back in the door by next weekend. Which would probably be the best resolution for your child, getting things back to normal as quickly as possible.
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Oh, yes, I did confront the employee and then another employee, and the "President of the club", and then- the supervisor of the State Facility. It was quite the experience... The supervisor said that, "they would accommodate my son's disability". But it was just a huge hassle and stress- and evidently there were discussions going on- prior to me arriving with my son. There was never any mention of a problem to me, prior to this experience. So, there was resolution in my favor, and I took my son over to participate in the group. But, I still wanted to publicize what happened, because it was so "uncalled for" and "stressful" - and also, with him standing next to me- just utterly rude. For those of you with disabled kids, you know that it is actually a huge undertaking just to get out of the house at all, and I don't think people should be discouraged from doing so... They need all the encouragement they can get. (and so do the caregivers)
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I'm really sorry that your son (and you) had to go through this. It was uncalled for an inappropriate. I hope that he can continue to enjoy the group and gets some good socialization and fun from it.
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So there ya go, put away your pitchforks and torches Salem residents. ... Sounds like the good Club folks were already discussing things as per how to fit UJ's child in. Funny how you left that part out initially Julie.
"Asbergers" ... You guys need to look that up and study it for consideration of the other side of the coin as per the effected members.
Finally, please take into consideration the sole source of your information here on punaweb before you hurl yourself onto another on of UJ's trolling grenades.
Question for UJ ... Did you go in and discuss your child's participation with the club before you started attending ? What did they say ??
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pog...ya just keep hittin tha nail on da head,,.go on wit yo bad self...60 year olds are/////??? ha ha! an then what mama??
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"Finally, please take into consideration the sole source of your information here on punaweb before you hurl yourself onto another on of UJ's trolling grenades."
I'd call this a pot calling the kettle black, except there's really nobody here to compare you to. You really don't seem to realize that you're the biggest troll here.
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I am 66, my wife is 60. We spent our lives on Oahu and Maui before settling in Puna. We have both noticed more kids (and adults, too) with pretty obvious mental handicaps out and enjoying life here than on Oahu. Uncle Roberts, Malama Market, Maku'u Farmers Market, we love the aloha here that accepts almost everyone. Today at Maku'u there was a young lady about 12 years old with her family. They all looked quite nice but one was especially well dressed and groomed beautifully, their Down's Syndrome 12 year old daughter. I am sorry your experience was so negative. The jerks will be forever with us but I feel Puna is a way better place than most for folks such as your son.
So Hunt ... You agree with me UJ is a troll ?
LOL,
pog
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