Intolerance experience today

[Hunt Stoddard]

Pog, maybe reading it slower will help:
"...except there's really nobody here to compare you to."

[dmbwest]

Hunt, beeg difference is, I don't post BS or opinion as fact. Nor do I throw emotionally influenced stuff up as opaque reality randomly seeking sympathy. Same goes for petty insults such as yours. I call it (out) like I see it.... And ask questions so I may understand where the person is coming from. The choice to answer is on the person queried Agendah -ed people might have a problem with that. So be it.

[Carey]

UK, I am glad to hear the working with the supervisor allowed your son to continue.

Based on your follow up that your son was able to continue to participate, it sounds like the facility employee created a solution that was not supported by the facility nor the supervisor, most likely this was a very unfortunate response to complaints by some of the older club members that had arrived just prior to you.

I have worked with children with varied abilities, both SPED classrooms & in sports (here & mainland) and have worked with children with various forms of Augsbergers. As long as your child was not at risk of injury/ing or damaging equipment and he was following all of the facility rules, there should have been no exclusionary actions taken.

In a well functioning world, if actions that caused the members to have their concentration broken also did not comply with the facility rules, the employee should have tried to work with you & your son to create a plan...unfortunately, many facility employees are not well trained for compliance issues like you raise.

When I was working within the Hilo Complex schools, I was teaching one child with Augsberger that had an individual aide that worked with him, most of this individual work was on gaining social/instruction cues. This student also had an aide off school hours (after school & Saturdays) that allowed the student to participate, more fully, in extracurricular activities.

There are services like special needs extracurricular aides, if your son qualifies for one to fully participate in this club, it may be worth investigating.

It also may be that you can hire an older (slightly or elderly...based on your sons needs) club mentor that can help him monitor social/instruction cues while both are active in the club. This also may help you.

[Hunt Stoddard]

"Agendah -ed people might have a problem with that."

Send this one through the pog translator. I have no idea what you're saying. Either you can't spell or you can't type.

Admit it, you're a troll. Go look up the definition of "internet troll." If it's not like viewing yourself in a mirror, I'll be very surprised.

[dmbwest]

"I have no idea what you're saying."

mahalo rob.

I'm done.
pog

[Hunt Stoddard]

One more notch on my pog rifle.

[unknownjulie]

Thanks for all the supportive responses. My son has never qualified for services outside of school because he has always, just barely, met the developmental milestones. Like, for instance, he'd be in the 3rd percentile for speech and my other two kids were in the 90th. At the same time, I'd have people on the street come up to me and say, "My daughter is autistic too". I had to take him out of school because his 1:1 was not making my son do his work. He was only focusing on the behavioral/social stuff- and my son was forgetting how to read- which I personally had spent years, and thousands of hours teaching him. So, it is a balancing act. But at this moment in time, at his age of 7, he must improve his reading, and since he is disabled- it requires me spending several hours per day on this- and the school was unwilling/unable to do this. So, when you see a child "misbehaving" in public, please look at the situation with less critical eye. You really can't begin to know what is "really going on". And if it takes my son 10X the repetition- to learn how to read- then it is also taking 10X the repetition, to learn basic social cues.

[Bullwinkle]

Not dissing the poster - but rather a hint to those thinking about moving here -

with all due respect - If I were looking for support with a special needs child - Id be looking for "better" zip codes that have funding....

Hawaii can be harsh....Puna under funded over taxed as it is when it comes to supporting special needs kids.....imho.

[Delta9r]

Here comes some pedantry...

Spelling, and misspelling, is one of my pet peeves.
I've seen someone who claims to be a teacher use a famous Nazi's name instead of the correct word, which is "Asperger's," and even the parent of a child with this syndrome has consistently misspelled it...

Asperger's

Look it up.

That said, I hope that no child, no matter their cognitive abilities, is ever discriminated against, but intolerance is part & parcel of many people's world view. Just read these pages to see what I mean.

"Life is labor, and all that is good in life comes from that labor..."

[unknownjulie]

Unfortunately it was in a very expensive "good" school district on the mainland that my son was denied any services. Here in Hawaii, at least they tried- and they did eventually get him a 1:1. It is just hard to educate a disabled child. I think the only thing that might truly help is being a multimillionaire- and being able to hire 5 private tutors, that just go over things all day long. I would also then "hire" friends to go to the park with, and birthday parties, etc. My son would not "know" that I was actually hiring the people constantly around him. He would just think that people "liked" him. See, this is how I would handle it if I had a million dollars. Right now, the only cost for me to try and do all this myself -is my own lost wages, social security etc. So, essentially I am paying a million dollars, just doing it less effectively, and pushing my costs further down the road. Well, I'll stop now, but it is all just quite difficult -and people should be more understanding when they see families struggling in public places.