Intolerance experience today

[Frank]

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Originally posted by pog

"I have no idea what you're saying."

mahalo rob.

I'm done.
pog

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come on brudda pog...sometimes its hard to find a raisin in a box of flakes...its puna, we may all be flakes...i used spell check, ha!

[Hunt Stoddard]

Oh, don't worry, he'll be back.

If it were that easy to get rid of him, someone would have done it a long time ago.[}]

[Carey]

Delta, I am sorry that my reliance on my Smartphone upset you (I was using voice & I took the 1st option...)

If you were referring to me with the statement "someone who claims to be a teacher"

I also NEVER stated I was a TEACHER... I worked with students, teaching them (although that may imply to someone that I was a certified or licensed teacher, I am not!) I have experience with teaching skills within classes here and on the mainland, and having worked with SPED classes noted something that might have been applicable to the OP.

Edited to add the quoted phrase

Please, if you will grant me the spelling error, I will grant you the error of assumption!

[Cheerio]

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Originally posted by unknownjulie

WE had just literally walked in the door. My child did not break any rules of the facility. The "complaint from the older members had to do with their 'concentration' being broken"- when we were there last week. My son is " a little off". He sometimes says inappropriate things. He can interrupt etc. I may have to tell him several times to do something. He takes medication for OCD, but he's diagnosed with "Asbergers". He has been in SPED in school, but I recently started homeschooling him. And the truly upsetting part about it, is that I could see he is "really trying to behave and be good" - while at the club. I am happy to keep him away from the "older complaining members" but that wasn't the discussion. It was just "carte blanche" - as soon as I walked in the door with him standing there beside me. Just a statement that "your son is no longer going to be able to participate"... I guess the reason I posted about it is to remind people that there are people all the time that are having problems and to just try and be tolerant. What appears on the surface of a situation, may not be what you assume to be going on at all...

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Julie, my heart goes out to you. Being on the autism spectrum (sounds like Aspergers) is so tough - you might outwardly 'appear' normal, but the nature of the disorder often results in the socially awkward situations that your son may have found himself in. My father-in-law and brother-in-law are both high-functioning autistic/Aspergers, but it's been a tough row to how for both of them - not knowing how to engage with other people, being "too loud", saying abrupt things, etc. I was definitely thrown for a loop when I met both of them for the first time. Admittedly, there are still times when they both embarrass the heck out of me in public. There is more and more information flooding the public about these disorders, but as we all know, Hawaii is a little behind the times. AND it makes it tough to not be outwardly "obviously" disabled...I bet you get a lot of looks and comments when someone can't immediately sort out what is up with your boy. It's hard, isn't it? I am so glad, though, that I married into a family with these disabilities - it has shown me how much can be achieved with some hard work, family support, & determination: my brother-in-law has gone from being a non-verbal hand-flapper as a child to having a full 4-year scholarship to a prestigious east coast college.

If you need any support like social skills training for your son, TIFFE and Hawaii Behavioral Health both provide support to families. I can't personally attest to their exact formula, but I could imagine they do a lot of work similar to my mother-in-law's (she is a specialist with CARD, the Center for Autism and Related Disabilities @ University of Central Florida - she provides families with kids on the spectrum with resources, specific skills training, etc.). My husband and I are both trying to work for either of these organizations, actually - they operate in the public schools, from what I can tell.

Good luck to you both, and keep your chin up and your voice heard. There's plenty of people in the world that still need to be educated about disabilities.

[unknownjulie]

Thanks so much for the kind words Cheerio! Yep, the handflapping, and loudness. All of it, so annoying to others, and they just say things like, "Can you please tell your son to settle down", or "Can you please tell your son he needs to blow his nose into a tissue and not pick it". Like, as if, I have not already done this one thousand times! Anyhow, I have already looked down every single avenue, and we do not qualify for any services at all... When he was smaller, we would have been able to get into the system- if he had officially missed the developmental milestones- but he was 3rd percentile and so did not qualify. He just stayed home with me- since he was kicked out of preschool and swimming lessons etc. But thanks for trying to help! I am sure those are good organizations. (and he still doesn't know how to swim or ride a bike)