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Does anyone know of a good support group for people dealing with grief in Puna or HIlo? I think I am going to need one. As my daughter and I were getting ready to take a bus to Guanajuato, Mexico to finalize details on her wedding we got the call that my Mom died peacefully in her sleep. I am going to need some help processing this.
Stuck in Indiana for now,
Carol
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From what friends who have sought their help, Hospice of Hilo has a good grief support group. I'm so sorry for your loss, Carol.
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Losing your mom is a profound life change, Carol. It brings back a whole lifetime of memories and a recognition of the sacrifices it took to make you, you. You are a credit to her. We are sorry for your loss. Hospice of Hilo is the one that shows up in the Calendar section of the Hilo newspaper. And my home is always open to you if you want tea and sympathy.
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I am so sorry for your loss, Carol. Please let me know if there's anything I can do. G
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Aloha Carol. So sorry for your loss. I hope you find the support you need. I lost my Mother on July 4, 2011. I get it.
Blessings,
Carrie
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Hi Carol,
Same same as above ... My mom passed on before I was 'ready'. Got word from my brother after the fact ... Ugh.
Come on over and sit down anytime.
aloha,
hug, ears to listen + shoulder to cry on,
pog :-(
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Thank you everyone for your kind words, I miss Hawaii, I miss my husband, and I miss my dogs. Most of all I miss the Aloha spirit that in spite of all the naysayers does exist, especially in times of need.
Still stuck in the Midwest,
Carol
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Hi Carol
So sorry for your loss. There is a grief support group called Rising up through Grief. They offered workshops around the holidays of dealing with grief during the holidays. I think I saw in the paper recently that they were having another workshop.
It's a program run by a brother sister team. The sister is Lani Weigart (maybe Weigert?). They are based in Hilo I believe. I can check around in the next few days if you can't find any info on them.
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My friend's dad died after a long fight against leukemia. This happened when we were out of contact for a few years due to moving around in the pre-facebook era. When we finally hooked up again he told me about his dad's death and how it impacted him. He said the worst part of it was whenever he tried to bring the subject up with friends or acqaintances they would usually try to change the subject because they could tell that talking about it upset him. But it wasn't talking about it that upset him, it was the fact that his dad died at a young age that upset him. Talking about it just brought the feelings to the surface. Feelings that needed to be brought to the surface instead of being bottled up to make it more convenient for those around him. He wanted to, needed to talk about it and nobody would lend him an ear. He eventually worked his way through it on his own. A few years ago a co-worker of mine passed away. Her sister, also a co-worker, came to me, visibly upset, to discuss some work issues related to her sister's death. I remembered what my friend had told me, and let her know that I was there for her if she ever wanted to discuss her sister's life or passing and she proceeded to share some things that were very important to her to discuss. I didn't try to pretend like I had any idea what she was going through, because I didn't, but I listened and offered the only things I could: empathy, compassion, sympathy, advice. She cried a lot, and thanks to my friend I was able to recognize that she wasn't crying because we were talking about it, she was crying because her sister was gone. I'm sorry for your loss. The fact that you recognize the need to talk about it means you see the long path to healing.
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