07-18-2007, 12:53 PM
Eric, a lot of people get those feelings, and for many, they pass. Others never adjust. I don't know what the hard statistics are (or even if there are any,) but some people say anecdotally that almost half of the mainlanders who move here end up going back. (At least that's what some employers and their apologists say when they don't want to give you a job.)
I do know that it is a major decision to move here involving a lot of thought and analysis. I also know that it is human nature to think at some point after such a big decision, "What the hell have I done?" It should take as much or more deliberation to reverse such a decision.
Gently insist that your wife adopt some of Andrew's excellent suggestions if she has not already tried something similar. Then set some reasonable amount of time in the future to revisit this and see if her attitude has changed. See if you can get whatever it is that is working for you here to work for her.
You didn't mention any specific complaints she has or how long y'all have been here. That information might help elicit some more specific advice from forum members.
Good luck,
Jerry
I do know that it is a major decision to move here involving a lot of thought and analysis. I also know that it is human nature to think at some point after such a big decision, "What the hell have I done?" It should take as much or more deliberation to reverse such a decision.
Gently insist that your wife adopt some of Andrew's excellent suggestions if she has not already tried something similar. Then set some reasonable amount of time in the future to revisit this and see if her attitude has changed. See if you can get whatever it is that is working for you here to work for her.
You didn't mention any specific complaints she has or how long y'all have been here. That information might help elicit some more specific advice from forum members.
Good luck,
Jerry